Blindfolded...

As I look back on past experience I am adequately surprised how blind I can be.  It seems sometimes we fall in love with someone, and then we immediately slip a blindfold on and press forward.  This way as we encounter issues, problems, shortcomings, irritations, we can just ignore them, shrug them off and say "It's ok, I'm in love, so i'll just let it go."  That's a big issue, how can you love without seeing who the person you love, truly is.  One day we wake up and the blindfold is missing, and we find ourselves surprised at what we see next to us.  Were surprised because who we loved is a lie, a lie we told ourselves to protect our hearts from pain or rejection.  Therefore we end up living beneath our privileges,  we do far less than our absolute best.  We all deserve to achieve our own personal best everyday, why short change yourself?  It doesn't make sense, not in the moment, not ever.  It's wrong, and wrong is wrong, no matter how you look at it.

The worst part of this, is sometimes when we blindfold ourselves we can hurt others who we encounter on our path.  Because we have dedicated ourselves to move in one direction blindly, it becomes easy to let other people fall by the wayside and become hurt by our lack of care or attention.  Our ignorance becomes a bulldozer with tunnel vision, as others come into our path they get knocked aside leaving them bruised.   In the movie "Meet Joe Black" Anthony Hopkins character Bill Parrish speaks to his daughter on the principles of love and what it should feel and look like.  He says, "Love is passion, obsession, someone you can't live without. I say fall head over heels, find someone you can love like crazy and who'll love you the same way back. How do you find him? Well, you forget your head and you listen to your heart and I'm not hearing any heart. Because, the truth is there is no sense living your life without this. To make the journey and not fall deeply in love - well, you haven't lived a life at all. But You have to try, because if you haven't tried, you haven't lived... Stay open, who knows? Lightning could strike." (Anthony Hopkins, Meet Joe Black, 1998)

I specifically want to apply the very last part of this quote to my thoughts, "Stay open, who knows? Lightning could strike."  When we put the blindfold of love on, we lose the ability to stay open, and if lightning does strike, how are we going to see it?  We won't, and we will miss the chance at finding true bliss, rather than the lie we tell ourselves in order to feel loved.  Love is passion, it is obsession, if those feelings only go one way, why lie to ourselves and deny the opportunity to experience what love is all about.  When you wake up and the first thing you think about is the person you love, you should hope that person is thinking about you too.  Love shouldn't be about one person loving the other, it should be two people who want to do all they can to make the other happy.  Blindfolds make it easy to ignore the lack of love we are receiving, but once we take off the blindfold and see what we actually have, we will desire more.  Then one day, lighting will strike, and it heals the wounds and scars left behind by the blindfolds cloak of ignorance.  Our senses have direct access to our hearts, let's not deny them their privileges, and wait for someone worth, not wearing a blindfold for.  So....How Do I Sound?