Why is it that when we know that someone is leaving, we don't feel like it's going to be very hard, even if its a only a few days we think to ourselves, "No big deal, i'll be fine." Then they actually leave and we find ourselves desiring to be with that person so much more than before, does distance really make the heart grow fonder? It's funny, I might go a couple days not being able to see someone special to me cause I get busy and I'm fine, but as soon as they physically go somewhere, and now I can't see them, it becomes emotionally hard. Why is that? Is it the physical experience of that person leaving your little world for a time, or is it the mental state of mind that enters when that person leaves you.
I really don't know the answer to these questions, but I sure wish I did. It also seems like when you miss someone, you go through waves of intensity. One moment your calm and at peace, the next moment your feeling this intense want to be with the person who your missing. I look at this as a very special opportunity, cause as soon as you experience this, your heart temporarily changes. Your heart begins to become more fond of that which is missing from your day, and you start to better appreciate the qualities and presence of that good in your life. Now the key to this little gift is cherishing it after it all ends. It seems when we get something back that we have lost, we get all excited and say "I'm gonna love you like crazy, and never lose you again!". But once things calm back down, and your world is brought back into balance, we begin to dull these sensations. We start to forget what is truly important and begin to neglect, ignore, and lose appreciation for that which is so important to us. So this really is a gift! We have the opportunity when we lose someone to better appreciate them, and when we get them back, we need to pull them in and hold on as tight as we can. And never forget what we felt when they took a vacation from our lives, and do all we can to make them feel wanted, appreciated, and loved. Because if they make us feel like something is missing when they leave, we need to show them how important they are to us when we get them back.
So I may not know the answer to this question, but I sure feel in my heart as though distance truly does make the heart grow fonder. I also feel that it is a waste of a great gift if we do not allow that distance, to change our hearts, and love deeper. So when thinking of my opportunities in temporary loss of a special person, I love it! Because it does not happen everyday, I want to take that opportunity and experience it, feel it, and love it! And hopefully I won't forget to let it change me, cause otherwise that pain and longing for someone, it's a complete waste. So distance can make the heart grow fonder, as long as you allow it to. So.... How Do I Sound?
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